Jacob and I have been exploring new parts of our relationship. Watching Joshua fall in love brought back a lot of memories and helped us to appreciate each other. It also brought us out of the hohum of everyday life. So tonight, we have a date. I wish I had the money to buy a new bedroom sheet set to spruce up the room, but I don't, so we'll just have to make the best with what we have. I do fully intend to make wine part of this evening so perhaps we won't even notice our surroundings...
Joshua has his turn at the end of the night. Things have changed a bit for us since I have begun an e-mail friendship with his lover. Getting to know her has helped me a lot--to make her a real person with real dreams and a real life outside of the internet. She lives in a different time zone, so one nice thing is that she is sometimes tied up until it is late for us--which means I get the family time for us and then can go to bed. Because of our date, I have made plans for us until midnight, and I asked her if that would work for her as well. Now I don't have the feeling of, "Oh, she had better be okay with it because I was here first." At this point, I understand that she is quite willing to take turns, which makes it so much easier for me. So I sent her an e-mail to say, "Hi, how are you, etc., what about 9 your time tonight?" And she writes back, a rather lengthy e-mail (responding to another e-mail I had sent) and says, "Oh yes, 9 is great, I won't even be home until 8." And so now I feel all the better because I can enjoy every moment of my time and then say, "Okay, your turn." What will I do at midnight? Who knows. I might read. Or maybe type on our laptop.
Have a lovely weekend!